2007

When we started this process, I pictured us traveling late 2006. Now there is a chance that it won't be until 2007. For several weeks, there have been rumors going around the China adoption community regarding a possible slowdown in the wait for a referral. Until recently, the wait has been 6 months from the time that all of your paperwork is logged into the system in China. Lately, referrals are coming in around 7-8 months. A couple of weeks ago, we received an email from our Agency acknowledging that indeed a slowdown is expected. No information as to how much of a slowdown is expected. Rumors have it anywhere between 2-4 additional months. The uncertainty bothers me more than the idea of an extra couple of months. I've ignored all of this until now. Not because I am strong, it's just that sometimes my "happy place" is denial. I am now somewhere between denial and trying hard not to get too worked up until we have more specifics from our Agency. They are great at communicating with us and I'm sure they will keep us informed. The other reason that I haven't said anything is that I do NOT want to hear any more of the following:
1. It will be worth the wait
2. Everything happens for a reason
3. It will be here before you know it
4. This is happening so that you can be matched with the child that was meant for you
5. Maybe you will get pregnant before then - (that one is the worst)
6. Everything worthwhile is worth waiting for
7. Anything similar to the above

After my short-lived pity party the other day, I mentioned to Jon that maybe the extra wait won't be so bad - trying to convince myself, not him. (He's much better at taking it all in stride than I will ever be.) It will give us time to save more money, learn some Chinese, do some things around the house, decorate an amazing nursery I tell him. His reply "Sounds good, what do you have planned for the second week." Hmmmm maybe I should add "try to relax" to that list.