I've heard from some friends and family recently that they check here for adoption updates and haven't seen anything specific lately. The fact that I ramble on about butt paste and disco parties is my way of saying that there really isn't an update. Originally we thought we would be meeting our child this year. Yeah, as in 2006. Oh, that is funny. Then here, I mentioned that it might be 2007 since wait times were expected to increase between 2-4 months. Oh, an increase of 2 - 4 months, those were the days.
At one point I thought that we had experienced our last Christmas, last Mother's Day, last Father's Day, etc. with just the two of us. I TRY not to look at things like that anymore. I am trying to cherish the "just the two of us" time. My birthday was Sunday. I turned 42. Luckily Jon and the friends we were with only made me blow out 1 candle. I could not help but wonder who will be there next year.
We spoke with our Agency today. I really appreciate the effort our Agency is taking to keep us informed. Unfortunately all they are able to tell us is that the current wait is approximately 13 months and the wait can get longer or maybe even shorter. Well that clears that up, doesn't it. There are many complicated reasons for the increase in wait times. Some of it is fact, some of it is speculation. I'm not in the mood to explain it here. I found a way to reset my expectations from a 6 month wait to a 12 month wait. I am in the process of resetting my expectations to an 18 - 24 month wait just in case. I'm not there yet. I know that a child (biological or otherwise) is a blessing, a gift and not something that I am entitled to for any reason. It hurts to admit that but I know it is true. That doesn't mean that my head is not full of "whys". It is.
So, all I can say is if you are reading this, the only update is that we likely still have another year. I've been saying "another year" since last October. Some people must think I am a crazy lady that thinks she is adopting. I'm either running in place or someone is moving the finish line. You will know if there is any news. I wish I could tell you more.
Also, I have said it before but I will say it again. Please refrain from using any of the following:
1. It will be worth the wait
2. Everything happens for a reason
3. It will be here before you know it
4. This is happening so that you can be matched with the child that was meant for you
5. Maybe you will get pregnant before then - ( Yes, we may get pregnant. Goodness knows we aren't doing anything to prevent pregnancy. This adoption is not a substitution for a pregnancy and no we aren't doing this to "save" a child. It is how we chose to grow our family. Period.)
6. Everything worthwhile is worth waiting for
7. Anything similar to the above
If you do say any of these things to me in the near future, I will want to scratch your eyes out. Of course I won't actually do that since with all the delays I will have to be fingerprinted again. But I can't promise that I won't fantasize about it.
Oh, but feel free to leave lots of comments about how I don't look a day over 41!!!!
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Hey, you're exactly 1 day older than me.
Outta the way, granny!
Leave it to Johnny to put an end to my pity party with a great big chuckle. Thanks man.
Signed,
Granny
24 months? NO! Please don't say that, I'd just worked myself up to the whole 18 month thing!
I just read your comment, re: the tim tams...
Can you say butt paste and tim tams in the same sentence? Kinda leaves a bad taste in my mouth!!!! he he he! Jodie ho-ho said there's an online "ozi store" - Jodie has a passion for Parkers Sundried tomato and basil pretzels! I'll get the web address and send it to ya! Happy to send you some in the meantime - email me! wait4bella@yahoo.com.au
41, you don't look a day older the 37!! I think you're pulling our leg about which birthday it was. Hugs & Kisses, Mary
Yeah, I heard #1 and #3 during lunch today! The same person asked my LAST WEEK if I had heard anything. I told her it would be sometime next year and I thought that would get her off my case!!! She asked my again TODAY!!! I told her today that it could be 2 more years (not that I believe that) to hopefully shut her up for good!!!! Sorry, I'm a bit on edge today! =)
#8: It's all in God's time.
Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr. >:-/
Happy bday!!!!
Happy Birthday!
And I'm right there with ya. I'm sure people think I'm making up the whole "adoption" thing. I told people not to ask me about it or it would make me cry all over them. That worked just as well as the scratch your eyes thing out, AND has no chance of resulting in a criminal record!! ha ha ha
hang in there. at least you aren't the only monkey hanging on the vine, ya know?
Yep, time to drink some wine....
The waiting stinks (or any other word you would like to substitute).
I am hoping that it speeds up & you see your referral by Halloween or Thanksgiving the latest. I know that's not really speedy but as we get older time does fly by. Oh was that one of the ones I'm not supposed to say, blame it on CRS (can't remember s***) disease that hits as you turn 42! ;D
jckhzzdhlhDog gone it, I am sorry you are still on hold here!!! Yep it does stink. Its that out of control, nothing you can do about, but people keep asking and its even crummy to even try to answer their questions. I remember. I have nOT forgotten you too. You will still see me here occasionally, and for sure well you know when...well actually NO you don't know when and neither do I , but you will see me here to Celebrate with you!!!
hang in there , there is a child out there counting on you to do just that NO Matter how long it does take!!!!
Glo
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